Anger Management: 5 Really Simple Anger Management Tips

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Anger Management: 5 Really Simple Anger Management Tips

Monday, September 15th, 2008 Subscribe To Our Feed

Sure, you get angry. Perhaps you're only angry every now and then. Or maybe you're angry most of the time.

The good news is, it’s not your fault that your anger surfaces. It's all those events around you. And those awkward people! You know, the ones who deliberately drive slowly in front of you. The people in line who spend forever getting the right change out of their purse. Your boss at work who always gives you the hardest jobs with the shortest deadlines. It doesn't matter why you've become angry. It’s what to do to get rid of your anger or at least manage your anger that counts.

So what can you do to manage your anger?

1 - Count to ten. S-l-o-w-l-y.

Sure, your mother probably told you to do this when you were child. And you’re not a child any more. Want to know a secret? It works just as well now (maybe even better) than it did when you were younger. If it helps, swear under your breath with each number you count. When you count to ten, do it slowly. It's not a race. Time your breaths to coincide with your counting and make each breath long and deep. Exactly the same when you exhale your breath.

2 - Take a long, deep breath.

Ideally, more than just one. Five or more long, deep breaths will go a long way to managing your anger. Give it a go now, while you're calm and collected. Breathe in. Slowly. Notice the air as it travels down and fills your lungs. Then hold your breath for a second or so. Then exhale slowly, again paying attention to the air leaving you. See your anger leave your body on the crest of this air and watch it dissipate into thin air.

3 - Talk about your anger.

Maybe with your shrink. Or talking with a colleague from work or a friend you can trust one hundred percent. Use this talking to express your thoughts. Ideally not at the top of your voice. Quite often your anger is caused by the straw that broke the camel’s back and can be triggered by something relatively trivial. If you talk about your anger - and maybe don't take yourself quite as seriously during the process - then you'll likely find your anger starts to reduce.

4 - Give yourself some relaxation time.

Anger often works side by side with stress. Relaxation will help to de-stress you. In turn, that will begin to calm your angry feelings. Or at least reduce the amount of time that you're feeling angry. Relaxation takes many forms. Choose one that's best for you. Whether it's a walk in the park. Or a long soak in the bath. Or listen to a specially designed relaxation MP3 that you've found on the internet.

5 - Use hypnosis for anger management.

Using hypnosis can be an easy way to help reduce and manage your anger. It works with you to help change how you react to situations that would have previously made you angry. It's remarkably inexpensive and totally discrete. Check out this hypnosis anger management track for more information.

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